Dominant, self-assured women are sexy. Add intelligence and kink to the mix, and I find them irresistible. Unsurprisingly, there are a number of forums on BDSM sites dedicated to ‘Alpha Females’. What is surprising are the number of people who operate under the assumption that Beta boys are the logical partners for Alpha women by default.
Perusing a couple of Alpha Female forums provided me with a few chuckles and some head-scratching moments. For example, a number of comments, by both male submissives and female dominants, imply only a ‘doormat sub’ can serve as worthy companions to an aggressive, dominant female.
Such a limited world view is tedious.
Don’t get me wrong, if that’s your preference, then more power to you. Maybe you enjoy a submissive who’s as meek and compliant to everyone else as he is to you. As an advocate for getting whatever it is you want or need from a relationship, I hope you find exactly the person or persons you desire.
That said, Alpha males can be very good submissives to Alpha females.
There are a number of reasons personalities clash and relationships don’t work. But to isolate a single personality trait as the culprit is flawed logic.
Also, I hasten to add that not all dominant women are ‘Alpha Females.’ Indeed, I know quite a few Dommes who are soft-spoken and shy ‘in public’ yet are dominant and firm in their one-on-one interaction with subs. More often than not, it’s the quiet ones you need to look out for.