Listing the Ways

The BDSM Lifestyle meme machine that is the internet depicts Dommes as actively denying submissives orgasms ‘forever’ and taking great pleasure in ‘locking males up and throwing away the key.’ While this can be dismissed as merely a cartoonish fantasy surrounding mean women, there’s a grain of truth to the depiction, but, personally, I’ve found it to be more untrue than factual. For example, V  rips orgasms out of me quite often.

It’s just that I cum on her terms, not mine. (more…)


Life is Good

Life is good. It also happens to be kicking my ass.

This last month has been a whirlwind of events leading to a lot of work, deadlines, and some annoying realities of my trade. I’d give out details, but nobody reading would give half a fuck about them. Suffice to say, the aforementioned whirlwind has left little time to write dirty things for this site. (more…)

Waiting with Pleasure

A confession. When I’m made to wait for my Dominant – perhaps told to cool my heels at a table or instructed to sit in the car like a little bitch – compliance often comes with a sexual rush.

This might be just one more aspect of D/s dynamics that seems ‘crazy’ to vanilla folks, and I’m not sure if other submissives feel the same way. Regardless, I’m turned on by both the instruction and act of waiting for my Dominant as one more action of submissive obedience. Because that’s my mindset and approach, submissive obedience is exactly what the act of waiting is. (more…)