Tag: Authenticity

Acts of submission, dominance, worship, or subjugation, which are authentic expressions of the self strengthen the D/s dynamic.


A few weeks ago, I went to an event that was billed as being a space, “exclusive to Female Dominants and those submissive to them.” This event failed to live up to what was listed on the tin, but that wasn’t really a surprise. What was surprising was that my jaded ass came away with some ideas to contemplate.

Specifically, there was one moment I found striking.

A girl was being beaten in the next room. I did not go to watch this session. I just listened.

Honestly, I’ve heard seen scenes like this enough times that I could probably guess with decent accuracy what was being used on her her by sound alone.

The wailing turned to sobs and it was clearly cathartic, and I got some satisfaction listening to her take it. Especially because she’d been such a brat earlier, the sadism of the tops working on her was gratifying. (Yes, yes, I know that’s what she wanted, but whatever – people can play whatever game they please)

Anyway – at some point I interacted with the girl who was being beaten and remember her claiming to be “transparent when she bottoms.”



Tribute Part II – Identity and Loyalty

I’ve been involved in BDSM since I was fifteen and showed submissive and masochistic tendencies long before that. I’m in my forties now. It wasn’t until about seven years ago that I began truly ‘accepting’ this is a large part of who I am. And it wasn’t until much more recently that I learned to value myself as well as take pride in my traits as a submissive. V was a large part of this lesson and my growth.

But just to be clear, I don’t believe identifying as submissive defines me as a human being. Instead – I see it as one important piece of my psyche that I’ve invested time and energy into developing because I enjoy that role in a D/s dynamic: it makes me happy. However, there was a period of my life when everything I just articulated was either alien or unknown to me. (more…)

Confidence: Sexy and Essential

What’s Not to Love? – (3) – On Self Assurance

It is a truth universally acknowledged, that an experienced Domme in full possession of herself, is never in want of a sub. ~ With apologies to Ms. Austen

Confidence is sexy. While that’s hardly a contentious statement, articulating the exact reasons self-assurance is alluring seems worthy of a separate post. Luckily, Domina Jen’s written an amazing piece on confidence, self image, and sex appeal. While Jen’s piece is more about body image, it still speaks to the point and worth reading. Also for the record, in addition to being absolutely gorgeous, Ma’am’s every bit as confident as she sounds and incredibly sexy… Just saying.

But for dominants, a measure of confidence isn’t just attractive; it’s necessary. (more…)

Try Again – Little Slut – Try Again

V spent close to an hour ruthlessly fucking me raw. Flat on my back, hands behind my knees, holding myself wide and high as she tortured my hole with a smallish toy. It was her preparations which made such an innocent looking plug hurt so much because she’d fingered, stretched, and stuffed me until I was properly tenderized. Now I was so raw that every thrust burned my sore hole. But no matter how much I whined or begged, V didn’t stop. She was pushing me over a threshold. (more…)