Tag: D/s Dynamics

Rules, personality traits, common problems, and pleasures of the the asymmetrical power dynamics that make up a relationship based on Dominance and submission which operates within explicit strictures.

Confidence: Sexy and Essential

What’s Not to Love? – (3) – On Self Assurance

It is a truth universally acknowledged, that an experienced Domme in full possession of herself, is never in want of a sub. ~ With apologies to Ms. Austen

Confidence is sexy. While that’s hardly a contentious statement, articulating the exact reasons self-assurance is alluring seems worthy of a separate post. Luckily, Domina Jen’s written an amazing piece on confidence, self image, and sex appeal. While Jen’s piece is more about body image, it still speaks to the point and worth reading. Also for the record, in addition to being absolutely gorgeous, Ma’am’s every bit as confident as she sounds and incredibly sexy… Just saying.

But for dominants, a measure of confidence isn’t just attractive; it’s necessary. (more…)


On Obedience and Submission

What’s Not to Love? – (2) – Obedience

Being an Obedient Boy:
Submission and obedience are synonyms. But submission can feel like a game until compelled to submit to instructions you intensely dislike. I don’t mean something trivial, like being sent back for the third time to select yet another shirt, or re-blacking boots when they already shine. No, I mean willfully obeying both the letter and spirit of her law.

For example, say you’ve promised to disclose all of your thoughts and feelings. But then you find yourself struggling with several which might cause your Dominant to be displeased. In fact, once you tell her, she might be hurt or angry.

This brings up a question:

If she’ll never know what you don’t disclose, why would you tell her?


What’s Not to Love?

Being Put in My Place:
I do my best to be well-mannered and well-behaved, but I’m only human. Sometimes I’ll take the wrong tone or might be a smart ass when the occasion doesn’t suit. (For the record, being a sarcastic smartass is my default mode with almost everyone besides my Domme with few exceptions.) So when my behavior or attitude’s clearly out of line, I appreciate and thrive under abrupt reminders of my position. (more…)